I'm a person who loves to give. :<)
Give of my time, my talents and yes giving gifts too. They all bring me joy. They all give me a nice "warm fuzzy feeling" to be able to do something for someone else. Small and large gestures too. Even smiles and hugs. You know I love giving hugs, if you've been reading any of my blogs for any length of time LOL. And I don't give with the thought of something in return, far from it actually.
But the true spirit of "giving" in the best sense of the word can get distorted at times. There are people who only give with the thought of receiving in return, their only motive.
There are also people who give of themselves so much that they are left drained physically, emotionally, sometimes financially as a result. An example that comes to mind:
I have a long-time friend of mine with (in my opinion) very selfish, grown children. My friend does so much for these children. Baby-sitting endlessly, shelling out money again and again... the list goes on and on. And in return. Well, let's just say, not much it seems. Not even real gratitude on the part of these "children". My friend and her husband are always putting their own needs and desires on hold it seems. Last on the list.
Yes, of course parents and grandparents want to help their kids and they should. But does that give children the right to take advantage of their kindness and generosity? I don't think so.
And it's a "funny" thing. It seems that in so many families, it's these kind of parents who end up with selfish, "takers" for children and vice versa. Strange how that is the case so many times. I've seen it myself, over and over again. In the big picture, I don't think these overly "giving" parents are really helping their children to become mature, well-rounded adults either. Again, just the opposite seems to be the long-term result.
I read an interesting post over at Psychic Bloggers about giving and kind gestures recently. Some of the things I've written about above are mentioned there too. This is a fascinating blog/site btw.
What are your thoughts on giving? Is it better to give than to receive?
Do you get a lift, feel a true satisfaction... from giving?
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